A life well lived, a love well shared

Joe MaddoxIt sure seems like a whole lot of the most special people in my life are leaving this life. I guess that happens as one gets older and I honestly can’t think of anything worse about aging. This weekend, I joined hundreds of others to celebrate the life of a really good one — Joe Maddox. As a result of exposure to Agent Orange during his service in Vietnam, Joe was slowly losing the function of one of his lungs. For the past several months, Janet and Joe had been in North Carolina, first preparing for a new lung, then receiving one, and finally recovering from the surgery. He was a model patient and his new lung was working magnificently. Joe died from a pulmonary embolism after he was released from the hospital. He was seventy when he passed.

By his own words, he had lived a full life, with no regrets. If this was his time to go, he was ready. The day before he died, he called his oldest and best friends. He told them he had just spent the best day of his life, with his lovely bride. At some point in their lives, many people prepare a “bucket list” of the things they want to do before they die. Joe, indeed, prepared a list that looked to be about ten pages long, single spaced, but not of things he wished to do. Instead, Joe’s list was of things he had done in his life. It is an amazing list. He lived an amazing life.

Of all the things Joe did well during his life, asking Janet to marry him was at the top. They were married 49 years. When Joe was about to have his operation, he wrote Janet a letter. He hoped she wouldn’t read it for years. At his service, Joe and Janet’s son Cole read the letter. Through my tears, I could feel Joe’s heart beating and was warmed by his smile. Joe loved Janet in such a pure and unselfish way. His words were both heartbreaking and awe inspiring. Joe Maddox. A life well lived, a love well shared. God bless.

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One Response to A life well lived, a love well shared

  1. Paula Maddox says:

    Dr. Schall,
    Thank you for this beautiful tribute to my Dad. In the week since his passing we have been held up by the love and support of all of the people who have known my parents. Thank you for the gift of your time yesterday at both the memorial and the wake. And for the support of the entire Oglethorpe community during their time at Duke.
    Paula Maddox and family

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